Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and right-doing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there.
Such an important personal lesson for me, and one I have been learning for years now. Everyday, I see that I have more to learn on this, clearly a case of the more I know, the more I know I don`t know and should 
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To be fair, I really believe I made a lot of progress in understanding “The others”, “The many many Others” in my life, especially if I am to compare with the Alex back in 07, before joining AIESEC.
Hmm, I still remember one summer in 08, when I called my “training coach” back then, Iulian Olariu, great AIESEC alumni, and asked him ” How can I work with fluffy people? I feel that I have a challenge with listening to them, and understanding them, and generally being in a team with them” )). His answer, first off, was: ” Alex, you just made the first step, realising you have this issue, which is more than most people do”. Ahh, he has his way with words ).
In the next months, and most notably, during my very hard LC EB experience, I`m proud of how much I challenged and changed this part of me, the part that didn`t understand how other people behave, and more importantly, didn`t understand everyone`s role within a team, didn`t understand that there is no real Right or Wrong in being fluffy or not.
I remembered this after Elizabeth Lessers Exceptional talk about:
Take “the Other” to lunch
Then, right as I was getting near the end of the talk, the new MCP of AIESEC Nigeria adds me on Skype, and we start talking about a very Strong Paradigm of “the Other” that I formed in Romania, in regards to Nigeria.
This is the topic of our next post.
A few weeks ago, one of the members here in Baku was asking me if I think the way she negotiates with people is right or wrong, and when I told her that I don`t believe in right or wrong any more, that she has her own style that works for certain situations, it turned out pretty hard to explain! hope I`ll do better next time.
Challenge yourself, Break your “the other”,
Alex
